What exactly is it about inter-racial dating that makes some people so uncomfortable?

If we are all people... why does it matter if the colors don't match up? What terrible thing are people afraid will happen as a result of an inter-racial affair?





I personally think its pure jealousy and/or feeling inadequate yourself and lacking confidence in your own attractiveness.|||To each his own.


The word is choice. We have the right to date who we want to.


It's our life no one has a right to choose who we date.|||im a white female that is mainly only attracted to black/middle eastern/latino men....and lots of people hate on me for it..


i think its cuz everyone has their own preference and they can't see why anyone wouldn't want to date THEIR preference. like for instance, most white girls these days like white guys, and they can't see why anyone WOULDN"T want to date a white guy! while its the other way for me.... i can't see why any one would want to date a white guy.... no offense to all the white guys out there it's just my preference.....


it might also be jealousy!|||From my experience in an interracial relationship and observing people who do or don't oppose it, I'm pretty confident to say that people who are uncomfortable with it harbour a lot of racism.|||I 100% agree with you. I'm in an inter-racial relationship, have been for 3 years. The looks we get, and remarks we get are just plain disrespectful! I don't know why people have a problem with MY relationship, because we are different races. I'm happy, so why in the HELL can't you accept that! Its just ignorance! People live a sheltered life, and when they come out into the world, they expect everything to be the way they want it, and well, its not! I live my life for me, and no one else. I can't help it if I find Black men so YUMMY!!!!!! People that have a problem with me dating out of my race are just jealous that I have, what they want!!!!





Stupid, and Ingnorant is what they are!|||im in an interracial relationship and i dont give fux what any1 says





aslong as they dont get in my face and say it





though if they say it to the gf some one is losing teeth and its not going to be me|||I have one word for you...





racism.





actually two words...





racism. ignorance.|||This is a result of centuries of ignorance, wrong teaching, and close-mindedness.





By ignorance, I mean simply this : if one was to truly delve in and study all the documented material on human anthropology - they'd realize we're all genetically less than .0001% different.


All life started in what is now Africa, then spread through migration to what is now Asia, then to the Americas through the now non-existant Pangia landbridge, and so on.





I look at my own blood for example, I'm nearly full Sicilian. Now, we're considered to be "White/Caucasian"....but technically, we're not. Siciliano blood has Moorish genes (from modern day Yemen), Phoenician genes (from modern day Lebanon), Greek, Roman, as well as English and French (from when the Crusaders would travel to Messina during the Crusades).





Anyhow, the point of that whole diatribe is this, there is no race. For ex: North and South American Indians are directly related to the Mongols of N. China. That's why their skull structures are so similar, and also why their eyes are somewhat almond-esque.





So, let me get back to your initial query....and why people get all wierd about this topic. It's quite simple, it's called ignorance. When as a culture, people are taught that something other than exactly them are not to be desired...it adds a feeling of taboo to the subject (or person, as the case may be).





People in small town redneck America still think it's 1946...and they still act like the Civil Liberties Movement never happened. The saddest part about it is, that's because that same teaching paradigm has not changed.





I love people, regardless of "race", simply because I don't believe that such a thing exists. We're all "interracial", there's no such thing as pure blood.





And again, it's all there as purely public information, all on has to do is look.|||people have all sorts of irrational prejudices that they grow up with and never question.





some men are uncomfortable wearing lipstick. some people won't eat goat-testicles (which are delicious) or dog-penis. some people always avoid walking on the cracks when they are out shopping.





most of these inherited prejudices are harmless and aren't worth challenging because it would be more trouble getting over the prejudice than worth to be free of it.





and then some of the prejudices aren't harmless - but how do people know which are the dangerous ones?





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(cases of extreme ignorance are much rarer - though you do seem to have found a few on this thread).|||I don't see how its anyone's business who anyone else is dating or why.





I have never put much thought into the issue. I guess you would have to be racist to even notice.|||Racism, ignorance and jealousy. They particularly oppose when (s)he's considered a "catch." I should probably be typing more but I'm too tired lol|||It doesn't make me uncomfortable at all, but then I'm a guy. It makes women a lot more uncomfortable.|||I love to see couples that are different races. And their children are beautiful! I don't want to get all religious, but scientifically, it has been proven... We all come from Noah and his wife and children. When the population grew and humans explored different areas of the earth, the certain genes and characteristics of those who produced offsprings eventually became the dominant genes. So no, it doesn't matter. Personally, I think because of that, we aren't as healthy as we could be.


I would love to be with a man of a different race. I love the exotic look of the tan/dark skin. And someone who is dark in complexion usually thinks that a person who is fair looks exotic. But upbringing has some play in it, and it's all in the eye of the beholder who they see as attractive to them.|||black , brown , olive . yellow ..it dont matter to me as long as she is inteligent , funny , sexy , kinky ,caring and kind





long legs and pretty feet are a plus|||igNOrAnCe


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tHat aBout sUMs it UP|||Alexandra: Genesis Chapter 11 does not state anything against interracial dating... What were you trying to quote exactly? Chapter 11 talks how God decides to mix up the languages and scatter us so as to not make it easy on us all as you will see below:





Genesis 11:


5 But the LORD came down to see the city and the tower that the men were building. 6 The LORD said, "If as one people speaking the same language they have begun to do this, then nothing they plan to do will be impossible for them. 7 Come, let us go down and confuse their language so they will not understand each other."





8 So the LORD scattered them from there over all the earth, and they stopped building the city.





If you are going to quote the bible for such a difficult topic please be a little bit more specific. There are so many people that turn away from God and His word and statements such as yours will not reach these people.|||i think this is a relevant question, even though i noticed some people are ragging on it. while interracial dating is more accepted now-a-days, it is still controversial, and i know many people whose families, etc, have given them a really hard time when they dated outside of their race. i think people are raised with certain, backwards ideas, and they either run with them or reject them. the people of today that still look down on interracial dating apparently decided to run with them.





and, you might be getting at something with the "jealousy" issue. freud said that we become angry and judgmental when we are afraid somebody "has" something we don't, or is having more fun than us. those that are completely confined by their ignorant beliefs probably do begrudge those that practice freedom of choice in all areas of their life.|||Well, you are not going to get a politically correct answer from me. It seems that most people think that white people are the most attractive. Many white people don't want their children to marry someone of another race because they want white children. When black men achieve success (such as Montel Williams, etc.), they usually exclusively date and marry white women. That makes black women mad. Even in the black community, lighter-skinned blacks are treated better.





Response to "why does it always come down to a black and white issue" response: It doesn't. White men who tend to be average looking will prefer an oriental woman who is in shape to a white woman who is out of shape.





You also have to keep in mind that when you two people of different races have children, some of them can have very unusual looks that can serve as a problem for them. Also, interracial children are often rejected by people of both races. Mariah Carey has cried on tv talking about how she was not accepted by white groups or black groups when she was growing up. Why put a child through that?





There was a poll taken that indicated that 70% of people will not date someone of another race. Despite the political correctness that we see on television, that is the way 70% of the population thinks.|||Well, I feel inadequate about myself and lack confidence in my appearance, and I have nothing against interracial relationships. So that statement can't be true.





But seriously, folks, I have no problem with others dating outside their ethnic or racial background. But I never would, or more accurately, never will again. It's hard enough making a relationship work. When there are ethnic or cultural differences, it makes it even harder. They may not come to the fore in the "honeymoon stages" of a relationship, but when the honeymoon's over... look out. Especially where families are concerned.|||Some races just think that if one of their own dates someone of another race then their blood lineage and skin linage might be tainted or tarnished. It's stupid in my opinion but that's how some races think.|||simply put: centuries of racism





sad but true.|||Actually, it's not a good idea to mix races. For one thing, there are issues with sterility. When you have mulattoes intermarrying, for example, by about the fourth generation sterility becomes a problem. That should tell you something there.





There have been studies done, but they're pooh-poohed by the PC globalist crowd, denounced as racist. They don't like for the facts to stand in their way.





Also, take a good look at Genesis 11.|||I wouldn't want any of my kids to marry anyone other than caucasean.





I would not want mixed race grand kids. It would not be fair on them.